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Monday, July 17, 2006

A tribute to Shelley

Shelley Alexandra Lappenbush Gordon
July 15, 1964 - July 10, 2006

Four and a half years ago, a bright light walked into our lives. Buddy introduced her as Shelley. She was an absolute joy to be around and a welcome addition to our family. She was the sister my parents neglected to give me. She was soft-spoken and sincere. She would ask how you are, and mean it. And she would really care about your answer. She was, quite honestly, the nicest person I have ever known. She is in the family portrait, and there she will remain. She was our heart and soul. She was Buddy's best friend. We will miss her and cherish her memory forever.

She left this world in a way unbefitting a warm soul. Someone who smiled and laughed and loved. Who held kitty cats, and snuggled babies. Who had a big, strong man who loved her and supported her the best he could. Who held her during the last few weeks of trial and upheaval and uncertainty and told her the last three words he will ever share with her. I love you.

In these situations there are so many emotions. There is shock. There is anger. There is sadness. There is disappointment. But there is also so much love. Many may be asking themselves, "Why couldn't I see it?" Please know that in Shelley's own words she asks us not to feel responsible. There is nothing anyone could have done to prevent it.

So go ahead and feel disappointment over a life too short. Sadness for the ones left behind, but also for Shelley. Put away your guilt. It won't bring her back anyway. Miss her, because you won't be able to do otherwise. And love her. Just love Shelley for the ray of sunshine that she was!


Rhonda said...

all i can say is how much i miss her. Thank-you for keeping a pic. of her for a memory of her(sorry if it doesn't make any sense)I love you auntie shelly and mom

Teri said...

Thank you so much for sharing this very personal tragedy. You presented the story beautifully. My thoughts are with you and yours.

Aunt Julie said...

I'm in tears, and I never met Shelly. She was lucky to have your family in her life. Your tribute is beautiful. God bless.

Unknown said...

My name is Noah, today (January 2nd 2014) i went a beach in lanikai, oahu. There i discovered an urn with the name "Shelley Alexandra Lappenbush" and the cremation date of "July 17th 2006" labeled on the bottom of this stainless steel urn

i googled this information and it pulled me up to your blog. i really want to get Shelley back to here family. no one deserves to be left behind, but some times it is best to let them free.

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